A little bit of history

So now that we are nicely settled in to this little space, let's get to know each other a little bit more.

I am a 33 (almost 34...gasp!) year old woman with an amazingly awesome 38 year old husband. We live in Metro Atlanta and have the best dog any one could ask for! I work in the social services field and my husband just became an assistant professor at a local university (so proud of him and his hard work).

I'm going to be honest, before I met my husband I was not planning to give birth to any children. I was convinced I was going to be a mom to a million and one children...but they were all going to be fostered and adopted. I worked in that field and had the mind-frame that there are already so many young people out there that don't have stable living situations, why not help them before producing any of my own.

When my now husband and I started having serious "futures planning" conversations, I told him that if he is not okay with fostering/adopting - we needed to see if this was the right relationship for us. Luckily he was on board

...with one stipulation...

he wanted to have at least one biological child. I agreed and we moved forward with our committment. PHEW!

As newlyweds, we had to dodge "the kids question" all the time! It got to the point where we made the joke that each time someone asked us when we were going to start a family - they restarted the clock for 5 more years. When people continued to ask, we were upfront with them and said, "No time soon, thanks for asking and we ask that you respect our decisions and stop asking." We explained that we wanted to wait until my husband was finished with his degree and the fact that we were probably going to have to relocate when said degree was finished. Eventually people got the picture and respected our space.

We decided that we would start "trying" to have a family as soon as we relocated. We had waited long enough and I was getting anxious. Before we moved I made sure to have one last appointment with my long time gynecologist for advice on what we should think about as we began the process. First off, she was super upset that she was not going to have the privilege of delivering our baby but she got passed it and helped us figure out what vitamins I should start taking. She also thought I could benefit from a high dosage of folic acid. See, my mom had complications with almost all of her pregnancies (6) so my doc thought we should be on the safe side and get a good amount of folic acid flowing through my system to stave off possible complications. I also went off birth control a few weeks before our big move. I had been on the pill for many, many years so I wanted to make sure it was out of my system before any true baby making began.

At this point we decided to do what normal couples do when they begin trying...we didn't tell anyone of our plans. It was fun to have a secret. I felt so devious going in to a book store and buying the book, "What to expect before you're expecting." We were in a new city with only a few friends. I am a horrible liar so I was glad to not see any close friends or family on a regular basis where I would have to knowingly keep a secret from them.

Okay I think this is a good stopping point for now. I have a tendency to ramble and the dog needs to be walked before the rain starts. I have to take a trip for work this weekend with a real early alarm so I am not sure if I will get to continue the story tomorrow or not. I will definitely try though!

Until next time good people! ~ Ms Infertile